Here is a post I shared on my website, khadijahrbz.com, that shares a bit of our vegan journey. The original post is from 2016, so I have updated some of the information to be more current. I get asked some of the same questions by different people and thought it would be nice to share […]
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Who is Better than You, Boo?!!
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Three Skills Magnified Since Living Abroad
We have been living within the land mass of Costa Rica for right at 3 months. To say that this experience has been without frustrations would be an untruth. For me to pretend there have not been moments when we wanted to ‘just go back home’ would be a disservice to myself and my loyal readers. [sn: where is home? we sold everything… where would we go back to?]
But for the times of frustration and the few moments that we wanted to return to what WAS our norm, we have many more occasions that make our decision well worth it. Each day we are actualizing our best selves and that makes this journey priceless on so many levels.
Three skills that I know have been enhanced in me are:
Patience is defined as the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
Read that definition again, a little slower...
Being patient in an unknown land, with unknown people, who speak a foreign tongue can be frustrating and contribute to one getting angry or upset. However, getting angry or upset is not going to change the situation. In all actuality, it will make it worse. And being that I want others to be patient with me, why not demonstrate the same. If you are planning to live or travel abroad, adorn yourself with patience, it is a great asset.
Openness is essentially a lack of restriction. There are so many beautiful lessons that can be learned, so many wonderful sites to see and countless discoveries you can find about your self when you are open – free of ridiculous restrictions. There is more than one way to peel a carrot and even more ways to live life full. Be open to exploring all the goodness GOD has made available through creation and other cultures – whether it is finding peace in the cool breeze that flows through a screen free window or adjusting to wiping and trashing instead of wiping and flushing. Don’t restrict your life because you are not open to see LIFE for a different perspective. GOD is always speaking and when we are open and in-tune with HOLY SPIRIT we are able to hear clearer and our vision is enhanced. Be sure and pack some openness and put it in all your bags so you can grab it easily on the journey.
Grace, grace, grace! Who doesn’t need courteous goodwill or simple decency and tact?!?! Being gracious and kind is so key. Trust… the same way I may get frustrated because I am not able to fluently speak the language, others get frustrated because they do not understand what it is I am trying to communicate. So in these moments when grace is extended, we both feel at ease. We regroup and, then take it slow. The POWER and BEAUTY of GRACE is wonderful.
While, extending grace to others remember showing yourself grace is necessary. Don’t beat yourself up. Love yourself where you are, with grace, because you are getting better. Never leave home without grace for yourself and others.
As we keep living we will encounter challenges but with patience, openness and grace we can overcome them. Being content and having peace in whatever state we are in, whatever country (the states or otherwise) is a huge factor. And shout-out to our brother Paul for demonstrating this.
Costa Rica has given me many tranquil moments that have allowed me to find and know that inner peace. Where ever I go, what ever I do I know what peace looks and feels like.
You Betta’ Read Girl
We all know that reading is fundamental or so we have been told, right. Well, it is! Reading is absolutely necessary. Whether it is books, articles, or FOOD labels – READ and read thoroughly.
I should have read when I was in the store the other day BUT I took for granted that all things are created equal.
Okay, so here is a little backstory about me. If I am buying something that has a label – milk, plantain chips, coffee, beans in a bag (you never know), seasoning, soap, lotion, etc… I read the label. I want to know what I am buying – all of it. HOWEVER, the other day I bought some curry seasoning to make Curry Lentils and I grabbed the baggie off the shelf, quickly skimmed the ingredients and placed in the cart. While skimming I was looking for key words – leche (don’t they put that s*** in everything), carne, pollo, jamon, or hueves and none of that was listed in the ingredients. Good right?!
So I get home and I am preparing dinner. I dance over to grab the curry and cut it open. As I get ready to DUMP the curry into the pot, I pause and look at the label one more time. This time a little slower. Reading EACH word.
Harina de trigo, sal, curcuma, glutamato, comino, mostaza, azucar, culantro, jengibre…. and the list continues but I will spare you. I was okay with most of the ingredients, except for the glutamato (MSG) but I knew that in the store and decided it was for this one meal that I wanted to make.
I kept reading and got to:
Puedo contener trazars de proteinas de pescado, soya, gluten, lacteos, nueces, huevo y mariscos. I thought pescado, I know that word. Pescado, pescado, pescado – FISH! huevo y mariscos!! eggs and seafood – REALLY!!! This package may contain those things (insert sad face).
As a herbivore, plant-based eater, vegan by diet (whatever you wanna call it)… this is not acceptable for me. If I decide I wanna have some fish or traces thereof, I want it to be on my terms. But since eating things that have eyes and poop is no longer my story I would rather not have something, knowingly, that could contain it. So, needless to say we did not have Curry Lentils. I will have to make my own curry seasoning (which I have done many times in the states) or find one here in Costa Rica without all the extra.
My lesson: read thoroughly, don’t skim a language you are not fluent in, yet, boo! Something else that resonated with me, yea Imma get all deep and what not, is never settle. I was going to accept something (MSG) that I do not normally accept and intentionally avoid because I saw a recipe and wanted to take a shortcut to make it and in the end, I didn’t even make it… SMH
Read. Never settle. Read. Never settle. Read. Never settle. Read. Never settle. LIFE is always teaching. What lesson, big or small, has life taught you lately that you want to share? Drop it in the comments – you KNOW I love to talk to you 😉
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My Costa Rican Reality
Since making the decision to live abroad I have heard various words to describe our decision. Some of the words that come to mind are – brave, courageous, crazy, impulsive, amazing, different, etc… We have been asked – why would you up and move your family, are you guys okay [my question is what does that mean, what is ‘okay’] or did you all think about this – to which I give a side-eye or eye roll.
I honestly think this decision was one of the most challenging ones we, as a family, have made. Because we LITERALLY picked up our WHOLE life as we KNEW it to live in an unknown place and eventually unknown places. We had never been to Costa Rica; however, our desire to expand and explore was greater than the fear of the unknown. Now that we are here there are challenges but with those challenges are beautiful opportunities for discovery.
When we told people we were moving to Costa Rica, some thought huts and jungles and envisioned us carrying tubs of water on our heads, while traipsing through the outback [and YES, we were told this!]. However, our reality is completely NOT that. We knew we did not want to live in heavily touristy areas but we also knew we were not looking to reside in a bungalow. When we first arrived and were living in the mountains we saw some interesting houses, placed in strange places [like the immediate side of a mountain] but we have yet to see a hut lol. Maybe homes with a literal open concept but no huts.
Since being here we have discovered many things. HA! So many things!
Things that are the norm in Estados Unidos are not a concern here. For example: screens for windows and doors. Who needs them?! Many people here leave their doors wide open and windows up, with no barrier to protect them from outside elements. This is not something that we are used to; however, we are adjusting. We hung our mosquito net from the overhang outside our front door and let the breeze flow through. We appreciate fans, especially mid-day because air conditioning is a luxury. But honestly where we have stayed the temps aren’t bad and most days it is pretty comfortable inside, until I start using the stove to cook dinner.
Another thing we have discovered is the sensitivity of the septic system here, requiring people to throw tissue away instead of flushing it. So whether you are wiping a dribble or a drab put your tissue in the small waste basket that you will find beside toilets throughout the country.
Also, the same way we feel most comfortable speaking our native language, Inglés, those here prefer, Español – which is understandable, it is their native language. Some people are willing to work with you when speaking and will put their little bit of English with our little bit of Spanish and together we make a broken conversation happen that is beautiful in the end BUT many do not even attempt [kinda like we do in the states… smh]. Those are the frustrating moments, when you have something you want to say but are not able to articulate it… oh, how many times does this happen in life and not just due to language barriers. There are days when I just wanna have a conversation with someone who can hear my heart and let me talk… just let me use my words lol
This is why I keep Stress Away and Peace and Calm essential oil blends on deck. I’ve got to figure out how to get my order shipped here so I won’t run low but, uh, figuring that out is another blog.
Have you had to adjust in a foreign place? How did you handle it? Tell me in the comments.
These small frustrations do not outweigh the joy we have knowing we are giving our kids the world. As imperfect, as it may seem to some, it is perfect for us at this time in our lives. It is our brave, courageous, crazy, impulsive, amazing, different, and love-filled life, as we explore the world.
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