When you have a conversation with someone with an opposing view, how do you handle trying to get your point across?
Having a conversation can be a challenge when you are dealing with someone with a strong personality. A lot of the time I have found people with strong personalities will try to take over the conversation and not let you get a word in edgewise. So what do you do?
It’s all about the Interjections!
Before we get into the list, what is an interjection?
1a : the act of uttering exclamations : ejaculationb : the act of putting in between : interposition
2: an ejaculatory utterance usually lacking grammatical connection: such asa : a word or phrase used in exclamation (such as Heavens! Dear me!)b : a cry or inarticulate utterance (such as Alas! ouch! phooey! ugh!) expressing an emotion
3: something that is interjected or that interrupts
There are a couple of words/phrases that we use around the house to stop the conversation a get a word in, and trust me, in the #TeamBz house we can all go hard in a conversation.
This list is not in any particular order:
- Hold Up
- But (This is said sternly with additional words added at the end, i.e. look, listen, you know)
- Well then
One of the things you have be conscious of when interjecting in a conversation is getting straight to the point. One of the frustrating things is when someone jumps in the conversation and holds the conversation hostage, giving a bunch of preface/disclaimer before stating the point they jumped in for. The craziest thing is when all the preface is done and they don’t remember what they were going to say.
When I say conversation or communication is a thinking man’s game (genderless), I’m saying you have to be strategic. Out think the person with whom you are talking to. Notice I said out think, not out talk with a bunch of words just to stay in control of the conversation. A lot of the way you are able to keep up with the conversation, debate a comment, and /or jump in with an interjection is to LISTEN. Listen more than you talk. When you speak make that time and your words powerful.
If you have any great words/phrases/ways to jump in a conversation to make your point but not be offensive, put it in the comments I would love to read them and your thoughts.
I think I may make this the first post in a Thinking Man’s Game series. I have a couple of other angles to come at this. Obviously this is about communication and interjecting in conversation.