Throughout the recent weeks I’ve been scrolling through my social media and I’ve noticed a constant trend of people searching for love. People have been drowning in their hurt. And I’ve always wanted to say something about it, but I’m not quite sure how to go about it, so finally I think I’ve found the way.

Yes, God is not going to put you through something you cannot handle, but I think we have got to stop blaming all of our issues and situations on God. Something’s we bring upon ourselves based upon the decisions that we choose. It is perfectly okay to be “single” and it is perfectly okay to learn, know, and love yourself before you attempt to love someone deeply.

So, if you are unhappy in a relationship with your significant other, then it is not supposed to be. Love does not hurt. No matter what society says about how you’ve gotta stick through it with someone who you’re “in love with” your “love” should not have to drag you through the mud and back just to be together. That is not what love is going to do. Of course; however, it will teach you lessons. You just have to be wise enough to discern between the two.

Also, love should not be forced. Please stop forcing unhappy, unreciprocated, and dry relationships. There should be a give/take in relationships. If you are not happy, point-blank leave it alone. Because I was thinking about this topic for a while, I searched my bible for a verse that I believe goes hand in hand with this.

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field:

Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

Song of Solomon 2:7

Wait. Wait for your time for love. I believe that some of us are so impatient for love (myself included) that we force unnecessary hurt and heartache upon ourselves. We are being told that our love will find us. The love that we are supposed to have, the love from that one person that will be carefully designed to fit and meet our needs, is on the way. We don’t have to try so hard to find something and make it work. Don’t try to arouse love, or try to wake up love in/with someone if it’s not there. Love is natural and when it so happens to “wake up” or “find you” then you’ll know. It’ll come to you without any second guessing.

So here’s my prayer for my generation and all of us that are lost in the world of fake love:

My living and gracious Father,

Thank you so much for all that you have granted for us in this lifetime and all those to come afterwards. You’re mighty in all your ways. My prayer is that you grant us with patience. The patience to believe in your timing. Your timing is perfect because you know what we need and when we need it. You will send the love that is perfect and especially designed for us. We will do our part in not trying to force relationships to become something that they are not meant to be and lose great friends along the way. I pray that you will give us the wisdom to know when you’ve granted us with the perfect love — besides your own. I pray that our love will awaken in the right time. We thank you for your love, for your grace, and for your eye that continues to watch over us. You are so perfect, God. We love you.

Forever your daughter,